Co-Sign or Cock-Block: Do You Trust Your Friends’ Opinion?

Getting set up by your friends can be a blessing or a curse. Sometimes they’re spot on with their assessments of a potential prospect. But they can also turn your dating life into Chingy’s career. I found this funny ass video over on Youtube about finding the right wingman. Watch it 1st

“I have the perfect guy/girl for you” can either have you besides yourself or have you wear the “bbm you buggin” face. Before you even entertain the idea of your friend setting you up, you have to stop and think about a couple things

*What’s their dating history like: If your friend can’t keep a man or woman for longer than a season, should you really be taking their advice? The Twitter homey @12kyle did a podcast a few days ago and gave some excellent POV about advice from your friends. In a nutshell, if you wouldn’t trade places romantically with that friend, their ability to be a good wingman/wingwoman is null and void.

*How receptive they are to your personal tastes: I used to have a homey who only dated model types. That type is clearly not plentiful in the dating population. So whenever we went out, I struggled to find a lake for him to drink from. The other problem is we don’t have the same type. So even though I’d be perusing the room to find a woman for him, I did a piss poor job because I myself don’t go after the same prototype. Your wingman/woman should know what you’re attracted to physically and know how to pick that out, separate from what they think your taste should be.

*How smooth are they initiating conversation: Your wingman/woman shouldn’t over-talk you. Never get fixed up by someone who is your direct competition! Your friend should be able to open the door and let you independently walk through it. If you’re fishing in a lounge or bar setting, your friend needs to be able to casually strike up a conversation with a group of women, giving you the alley-oop. Your personalities should be relatively similar so it’s not obvious that you have a wingman/woman. But your friend shouldn’t come off as a better pick than you.

*How pure their intentions are in hooking you up: Some wingmen/women genuinely want to see a happy couple. Even if they’re single, they still want to see their commitment-minded friends to find what they’re looking for. In having your friends match you up with someone, the intent should be that the person they’re hooking you up with wants the same thing you want at the same time. That’s a very important point in whether a match will be successful or not. Intentions also matter because you have to think, if the match is truly made in heaven, will your friends back off and let you be great down the line?

When it comes to new relationships, friends are often the 1st line of defense in whether new booty stays or goes. You also have to be able to think for yourself and be a good judge of character. If you let your friends fix you up, they have to know when to fall back and let you be the pilot.

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